BARNSTABLE FRIENDS MEETING -- State of Society Reports
For Barnstable Friends, it seemed like this was a year of abiding, and waiting in the silence of worship and light. Waiting for whatever seeds germinate and grow. For BFM, it’s meant settling into and shaping our new home in Dennis, MA, putting out signs and the wonder of holiday lights. While waiting for the spring thaw that is sure to come, some of us were reminded of a quote from John Milton’s poem, On His Blindness, “they also serve who stand and wait”.
Other relevant quotes that Barnstable Friends found particularly meaningful this year are:
“And don't think the garden loses its ecstasy in winter. It's quiet but the roots are down there riotous”. –Rumi and
"Kindness is like snow. It beautifies everything it covers”.--Khalil Gibran. (See addendum for complete source texts.)
ADDENDUM
“On His Blindness” by John Milton
When I consider how my light is spent
Ere half my days in this dark world and wide,
And that one talent which is death to hide
Lodg'd with me useless, though my soul more bent To serve therewith my Maker, and present
My true account, lest he returning chide,
"Doth God exact day-labour, light denied?"
I fondly ask. But Patience, to prevent
That murmur, soon replies: "God doth not need Either man's work or his own gifts: who best
Bear his mild yoke, they serve him best. His state Is kingly; thousands at his bidding speed
And post o'er land and ocean without rest:
They also serve who only stand and wait.”
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Kindness is like snow — it beautifies everything it covers. - Kahlil Gibran
For the past year (more like decades), hate against people of color has grown. Some want to believe racism doesn’t exist anymore, but it never went away. We live in a world where the color of someone’s color is more important than showing some kindness.
Diseases and things don’t discriminate, people do. Covid has taught me that life is too short to hold grudges. People waste more time hating a person or wanting to rush through life, when we should stop; take a breather; enjoy the things around us. If we stop and take a moment to help someone in need, we’ll see the true beauty of the world.
Similar to snow, kindness purifies the soul; giving a fresh start in life. It has the power to bridge divides and heal. Small acts of kindness will go a long way. Remember everyone is going through something. Hold a door; say hi; say please and thank you. An act of kindness can change someone’s life.
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FORM IS ECSTATIC
There is a shimmering excitement in being sentient and shaped. The caravan master sees his camels lost in it, nose to tail, as he himself is, his friend, and the stranger coming toward them. A gardener watches the sky break into song, cloud wobbly with what it is. Bud, thorn, the same.
Wind, water, wandering this essential state. Fire, ground, gone. That’s how it is with the outside. Form is ecstatic. Now imagine the inner: soul, intelligence, the secret worlds!
And don't think the garden loses its ecstasy in winter. It's quiet, but the roots are down there rioutous. If someone bumps you in the street, don't be angry. Everyone careens about in this surprise. Respond in kind. Let the knots untie, turbans be given away. Someone drunk on this could drink a donkey load a night.Believer, unbeliever, cynic, lover, all combine in the spirit-form we are,but no one yet is awake like Shams.
Rumi, The Soul of Rumi: A New Collection of Ecstatic Poems
Although Barnstable Friends Meeting, a Preparative Meeting of Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting, continues to be small and although as every Meeting in New England, we were unable to meet in person for most of the year, we stayed connected to each other, Friends in Mattapoisett and to that which is Eternal. As worshiping in front of a computer screen seemed less spiritually alive, each Sunday we were reminded to worship in our own spaces and afterwards connect with each other through Zoom.
The year 2020 felt both critical and fraught, a time of danger and possibility. There was Life and ways we felt drawn to service through three initiatives:
One, due to the role that oppression, exclusion and white supremacy play in the current deep divisions in our world, create (including support, encouragement and promotion,) the website Tools for Racial Justice, with the Healing Racism Toolkit; https://tools4racialjustice.net.
Two, create (including support and encouragement) a virtual Sermon that the clerk was invited to give at the Barnstable UU church. Part of the Whole: Healing a Broken and Fractured World and the Blessing of Stillness at this Critical Time. You can see it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gCH1R6lntqg
Three, make a prayer and healing quilt. Each of us is either knitting or crocheting a square or rectangle in any size, shape or color which eventually will be stitched together and any gaps filled in. The quilt is to be given to an individual when they are in serious distress. It isn’t so much about the finished product though. The idea for this action is that every stitch is part of holding us all together, each is its own prayer for unity and being one part of a diverse whole above the rancor, chaos and fear. The sentiment is that all is good, that even those inexperienced, who might from time to time drop a stitch are simply creating more holes for the light to get in.
Precious seems like one of the best words to describe Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting and Barnstable Friends Meeting (Preparative). In a world being tossed about in a sea of chaos and division, our Meetings are harbors for mutual respect, unconditionally love (even in the midst of differing, strongly held opinions) and a harbor of peace. It’s a place where everyone, especially Barnstable Friend feels welcomed, accepted and spiritual affirmed.
Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting and Barnstable Friends Meeting (Preparative) demonstrate loving and tender care in many different ways. These include a real heart felt tenderness that flows forth in attention to needed details; such as a particular potluck dish, or when some express in worship what is moving their spirit. Much joy comes from after meeting gathering for tea or potlucks. They present opportunities for those present to talk about and resolve old misunderstanding.
This past year, Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting attempted to encouraged newcomers with an open house. Although sparsely attended it did help draw us together and learn new things about our heritage such as the story of Quaker cannibals of Nantucket. Barnstable Friends attempted to encouraged newcomers with a book club using Amanda Kemp’s “Say the Wrong Thing” and initiated a “17 characters ministry” with a changeable street sign that reflects Quaker principles. Meetings also did concrete things in the wider community such as the annual Buzzard Bay swim, tabling for LQBTQ concerns at New Bedford Pride and supporting the local immigrant community.
Loss, love and learning are three themes that rose for us during 2019:
Loss of the four members who are deeply missed by our Meeting community. The love was palpable during the three memorial services that were held. They were a lovely time with family and F/friends to remember the unique place these Friends had in the world and special things, like how one of them would be giggling about the sounds of an early spring. Three of these members were artists and there was renewed awareness of the importance of their role in society, the spiritual need for art and beauty.
The love being shown to our children, particularly a young granddaughter and young adult Friend, helped people feel connected and attached to our Meeting. When the peace corp volunteer had a medical difficulty and briefly came home, he was grateful for being loved and supported and for the elders who previously had similar Peace corp service experience. It helped them all feel part of a caring continuum.
Learning about clerking and some of the strange, funny, quirky Quaker ways is an ongoing process for all of us. We continue to learn to listen in different ways and are becoming aware of how ego can jump in. We find it an interesting and loving process.
Spring comes late to Cape Cod but eventually green shoots appear; just so for Barnstable Friends Meeting. In 2017 we had a few more attenders make their way to our door and even though we are still very small, worship is verdant, rich and meaningful.
"Peacemaking doesn’t mean passivity. it is the act of interrupting injustice without mirroring injustice, the act of disarming evil without destroying the evildoer, the act of finding a third way that is neither fight nor flight but the careful, arduous pursuit of reconciliation and justice. It is about a revolution of love that is big enough to set both the oppressed and the oppressors free. Peacemaking is about being able to recognize in the face of the oppressed our own faces, and in the hands of the oppressors our own hands. — From A Liturgy for Ordinary Radicals
- · We have been actively involved with Homeless not Hopeless (an organization of homeless people helping other homeless people).
- · We have supported the Cape Cod Downwinders whose purpose is to call attention to Pilgrim and other nuclear energy locations in New England that are similar to the Fukushima nuclear plant with its built-in dangers.
- · We sponsored a program on Gospels, Spirituals and African-American Folklore that was well attended. We are working with New England Yearly Meeting’s committee that sponsors the Journey of Healing (workshops to help New England Friends be in good relations with our indigenous neighbors). We enjoy giving gift certificates and turkeys to the Wampanoag community at Christmas time. We held vigils to address hate crimes designed to bring the power of prayer to the trouble faced by people of color in Ferguson, MO and elsewhere.
- · Displayed in our meetinghouse and website are NEYM Working Party on Racism's minute and minutes that we have written on same gender marriage and another on war and peace.
May this be so for us in this tiny meeting on Cape Cod and for all of us.
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Barnstable Friends Meeting, a Preparative Meeting of Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting
State of Society Report 2013
(draft accepted with input by Mattapoisett and BFM Business Meeting 2/23/2014)
What has been most relevant to Barnstable Friends Meeting in the past year is best described by Nancy Wood in "Poetry and Prose of the Pueblos."
Hold on to what is good even if it is a handful of earth.
Hold on to what you believe even if it is a tree which stands by itself.
Hold on to what you must do even if it is a long way from here.
We started the year our strong beautiful selves, writing a State of Society report that conveyed the preciousness of a spiritual community. But, and as is not uncommon after many years, we had interpersonal difficulties that went from bad to worse very fast and there were some who for one reason or another could no longer make the journey to meeting. The result was a small Meeting got tiny with attendance numbers falling to an average of 3-4 in worship.
It has felt like all we could do was hold on to a mere handful of earth; but it is good earth, rich in spiritual significance. Goodness was made manifest in a number of instances, one key way was Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting who stepped up yet again. They comforted, loved and supported us. We initiated a routine where 2 of them come to us once a month and once a month we go to them (while there we hold a concurrent Meeting for Business). We updated a blog where messages that came from worship could be posted. Some of the ongoing themes on the blog were "Divine paradox," "unexpected blessings," "Spirit as ultimate witness," "that there is an Eternal force that renews everything, nothing goes to waste. So in the end all of it is for the good. Nothing lasts as it is forever, except Forever." We held on.
In spiritual seeking, we actually experienced many blessings from this experience. Looking for what is real taught important lessons and we found insight in religious texts such as Jones, Merton, Penn, and of course Fox. Although it seemed we were a tree standing by itself, through the pain we held fast to faith and to sacred commitment. For even though we were no longer in relationship, we held onto the belief in the inherent goodness of everyone, that we all are doing the best we can with what we have. Forgiveness, letting go of resentments and judgment as well as letting go of the way things were in the past, was a vital part of our healing process and acceptance of Creator’s will. We are grateful and content in the here and now of the unfolding mystery.
Throughout the year it did feel like we had a long way to go; however, members continued their work with the homeless, racial justice and relationships with Wampanoag and other New England indigenous people. Because there was no place for people to go if the power went out for a 5 mile radius (including much of Mashpee/Wampanoag territory,) we partnered with the Waquoit Congregational Church on building a warming station. We provided support for the “Pilgrim 14” who were arrested May 20, 2012 at a rally and demonstration outside the Pilgrim Nuclear Power Station. The NEYM committee of Racial Social and Economic Justice held their retreat with us in June.
Together we move forward, holding on to what we must do as Friends; step by step holding on to what is good.
“Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being.” Albert Schweitzer
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STATE OF SOCIETY 2011 --- Barnstable Friends Meeting
When considering the spiritual health of the our beloved Barnstable Friends Meeting for 2011, a visualization came to us of a tapestry of our own making. Rather than well defined and recognizable forms in this tapestry we see a vibrancy of color- threads that each of us has sewn in. The texture of this thickly woven tapestry speaks of a year in search of the Light, truth, justice and always love. This tapestry is not yet finished, ever evolving, one end awaiting the threads of continued growth and ever deeper devotion to prayer.
Looking close at our tapestry there is the warp which provides the comfort of spiritual foundation and there is the weft which runs back and forth, an ebb and flow, the duality of busy/quiet forming patterns, the examples, the challenges of leading a spirit center life. As George Fox said "And this is the word of the Lord God to you all ... be patterns, be examples in all countries, places, islands, nations, wherever you come, that your carriage and life may preach among all sorts of people."
In 2011 there was a lot of activity in these warp threads for Barnstable Friends as we interacted with other Meetings and groups taking stands on Friends principles. This included disseminated in various newspapers and among wider Friends, a peace minute beginning with the words “It is with tears that we mourn” and ending with “Penn put this truth {nonviolence] to test, ... instituting what was known in Indian terminology as a "chain of friendship”. Let us then try what a chain of friendship, try what Love will do". Members and attenders also were involved with Occupy activities, initiatives to help the homeless and assistance to elders in need. In addition we outreached to communities of color with funds and a letter of support for their activities. We approved a decision to withhold proportional contributions to NEYM that supports FUM. Minuting that we take this stand based upon a 8/26/07 minute which states, "...We come to this from our belief that all discrimination is contrary to the working of the divine, the spirit in each of us, the capacity to join soul to soul, the desire to love unselfishly should be celebrated in all its forms.”
Some outward actions were challenging. These included members sleeping outside 12/23/11 in solidarity with those who sleep in the dust every night, supporting our clerk as she also clerked a Yearly Meeting committee that led one of the Plenarys at Sessions and the burden of traveling off Cape to attend meetings and events at our monthly meeting and Quarter. Some question whether we challenge ourselves sufficiently in ways that are useful for spiritual awakening while others ask if with our busyness and attention to Quaker bureaucracy was getting in the way of the simplicity that Quakers advocate & cherish.
Meanwhile we are blessed by the threads of the warp firmly grounded in a rich deep worship and personal commitments to a spiritual life. All deeply appreciate the depth of love and support felt one to another and the wisdom within the meeting shared in both messages during worship which connect us to the beauty of the infinite Spirit and afterward during times of discussion and one member’s lovingly presented hospitality. We feel blessed not only by relationships among us, including the welcoming of two new members, but also by the loving care of Friends from Mattapositt Monthly Meeting and by the space we have in our precious Burgess House.
There are places in the tapestry of our meeting which require our prayerful attention. We are saddened that some feel feel dissatisfaction with us as a meeting. We will continue to hold them in the light and look forward to a day of peace and reconciliation. Another concern is that we would like to grow our meeting particularly in ways that could attract young people how to make it fun and speak to their spirits.
If one stands close to a tapestry, one sees many individual threads, but if one steps back one sees only the whole. If we step back the above detail blurs into that vibrancy of color. We are left with simply
“In Light we are seen, in Love we are known, in Peace we are whole, and in Light, in Love and in Peace we are One.”
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STATE OF SOCIETY REPORT 2010
In the early summer, as avenues to our continued membership in New England Yearly Meeting were closed, Mattapoisett Friends offered us a home as a preparative meeting within their beloved community. We have worshiped together and have felt blessed that we were in each other’s lives — including cross fertilization in business meetings. The blessings of this union have been astonishing.
There is also an aspect of this Truth that BFPM finds in the deep valley of the rich, dark silence of the soul. It is here that we find an inner comfort, knowing that there is a heavenly force that holds us in Its love. It is out of this depth that the still, small voice of Creator guides our discernment of a positive way forward with forgiveness, dignity and faith in the ultimate triumph of Truth, wholeness and peace.
Social testimonies were frequent topics of conversation. This outward practice of our faith expanded to include partnering with a local motel to provide homeless women respite from the streets for one week a month and helping a Wampanoag elder publish her book. We distributed “War is Not the Answer” signs around Cape Cod and also expanded our publication on death, dying and bereavement. Our worship has helped us clear our minds and feel Spirit bring us together, giving us the strength to face the week ahead.
Some discussion also took place around the concept of “submitting to an authority” beside that of Creator. BFPM expressed concern about this phrase. We were reminded of this relevant quote: “These things we do not lay upon you as a rule or form to walk by, but that all, with the measure of Light which is pure and holy, may be guided; and so in the Light walking and abiding, these may be fulfilled in the Spirit, not from the letter, for the letter killeth, but the Spirit giveth life.” — George Fox.
We move into 2011 with a strong sense of the abiding presence of Divine beauty. We thank Creator for our blessings: the difficult times for they are an opportunity for growth, and the joyful times for they nourish and sustain us. We held all in NEYM in the Light and prayed for a time of healing. We are eager for a reconciliation with all in our Quarter to bring everyone back into loving harmony.
Creator, Spirit has such a calming and warm effect, it speaks to Love, the Light. This inspires us — along with the words that came during the silent worship at a Sandwich Quarter Meeting, “blow on the coals of one's heart” (from JB, a play about Job, by Archibald MacLeish). When one feels all is lost, there is more hidden within, — just blow. Approved 3/6/11
- Barnstable Friends Meeting is my spiritual home, and I mean this apart from the physical building that houses us, as special as the Burgess House certainly is. This past year I feel very strongly the presence of “seeking” within the meeting. During challenging and difficult times this question has often directed us: “What is it that Creator would have me do?”
- Our Meeting has become more cohesive as we accept each other and perceive our roles within our community. Although concerned about our status within the greater Quaker community, our angst has diminished and we proceed forward. I think the search for our path is honest and we do well.
- Just some small words of thanks for being open to the experiment of a mid-week meeting…Being in touch with this group of Friends has been very gratifying. While the 80 mile drive (RT) and Sunday meeting time presents some personal challenges, we have found there a place of peace, comfort and connection, and we are hoping to resume attendance of some Sunday meetings.
- As those present on first day settle down, a sense of communion permeates the room. The thoughtfulness and love generated carry over to the social time after meeting for worship. Discussions are thoughtful and well reasoned. The caring of each other is always evident. I feel that my spirit has been refreshed and that my strength to carry through another week has been replenished; I am thankful.
- It is most satisfying to worship with such dedicated Friends. It is obvious that the small, nine or ten, active members make a committed group but also a fragile entity: for it is conceivable that if a couple were to leave due to health or attrition we would most assuredly be concerned. Our clerk has been exemplary in expenditure of time, energy, physical needs, and spiritually all the while adhering to the proper proceedings as laid out in Faith and Practice.
- A passage in Faith & Practice, Chapter 1. The Quaker Message speaks of what I'm trying to say. “Since those early beginnings, Friends have continued to hold that their faith is one of first-hand experience of God in their lives. Spiritual life, they say, does not depend upon the acceptance of certain doctrines, nor … external authority in religion, because they feel that for them these do not serve the life of the spirit. … They seek to be obedient not only in the quiet gathering for worship together, or in their meeting for settling practical affairs, but also as they are led as a group to be concerned for those about them, particularly those suffering injustices or inequities. ” I feel so strongly and proudly that Barnstable Friends Meeting is so very grounded in this. I pray that Quarter will understand this about us, love this about us and welcome us as a monthly meeting.
- Barnstable Friends Meeting grounds me, and helps me remember to stay aware of The Light; the meeting provides me with friends on whom I can rely and a weekly sanctuary that spreads peace throughout my week.
- Barnstable Friends Meeting is the source of my spiritual strength. When I feel discouraged my heart and mind turns toward these Friends with whom I worship each Sunday. I feel restored. Like David in the psalm “Yeah though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for thou art with me.” It is this worshipping together that grounds my life as I feel present with Friends who love me with all my flaws. In those last few moments of silence before the hour hand hits 11 o'clock, I breathe deeply that stillness; for meeting is where I find the sustenance to continue the journey of service to Creator. A harmony is present without sound as in the following poem by a George School classmate.
- Words for the Silence, by Shmuel Klatzkin
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